Sunday, January 22, 2012
A Piece of My Heart..
A few days ago, I started planning a weekend getaway Just. For. Me.
I started the planning in a time of calm, not when everything was crazy. (Usually I talk about "running away" in the midst of chaos and noise.) No, the Husband suggested a few weeks ago (when I was feeling the strain of the chaos and noise and talking about feeling like I could not "breathe".) that I plan a couple of days away by myself in the next month or two. (My angst was palpable, apparently, or my ranting was a huge hint. ;) )
So the other day we started talking about places and the 17 yo even suggested places I could go for a couple of days of R & R within driving distance, not too close and not too far. (He is my human GPS, don't you know?) The 10 yo wanted to know why he couldn't join me. (17 yo told him that totally defeated the purpose of mom getting away.) The 7 yo quietly walked to my side with the two pieces of paper in the picture above.
That is a picture of a heart...cut in two. The look on his face was absolutely heartbreakingly pitiful. Me going away would break his heart. Aaaw. I have gone away before. I went to MOPS convention in August and to a Women of Faith event in November, but for some reason me going away alone for two days to read, knit and lounge around on my own schedule was a very sad prospect for him.
(This morning I was thinking about that lounging around on my own schedule thing as I heard Miss M crying downstairs with the Husband and knew it was unfair that I was still lying in bed...when I am away I won't feel guilty because, hey, I'm not home to hear it. But I digress... )
I gave the 7 yo a hug and told him I loved him, told the 10 yo again, "No you cannot come with me," and placed the picture on the counter.. where I found it again this morning. And I was reminded, that these children who sometimes make me want to run from the chaos, love me and depend on me and are pretty awesome gifts I have been blessed with. They stretch me and teach me and I credit them with helping me recognize that life is not about absolutes, perfection or always knowing the answer, but that life is about the journey, the experiences, the shades of gray and learning what to do in the midst of...chaos.
I think it's safe to say that having children is like having my heart grow immensely and yet always be in pieces. I can't always fix and protect and calm and sooth and run defense for them so my heart is constantly cracking, but through it all, I can love them.
I have not yet picked a date or place for my getaway, but just knowing it's on the horizon helps me breathe a little bit. I know when I do go the beasties will be in excellent hands. (The Husband is much better in chaos than I have ever been.) I recognize that just as the boy's heart was in pieces thinking about me going away, my heart is always in pieces and it is going to be in pieces forever, that I cannot fix it all or always protect them, but I can love them.
Hmmm...where have I heard about that sort of love before?
Thank you God, for reminding me of that perfect love you give to me, a love I can never fully replicate but I will sure try to follow Your example.