The other day I was at a Bible study and we were discussing relationships. Really, we were talking about friendship. We were discussing how most of us have many "acquaintances" but when it comes to those deep, trusted friendships we're kind of feeling a little....unsure.
I wrote about my dear friend being here last week and how I have vowed to nurture my local relationships and here I was having this discussion. Talk about timely!
It's not easy to build a friendship as an adult, at least I don't think so.
It's not like being in 3rd grade and passing a note:
Will you be my friend? Check Yes___ or No___
I think it's more risky now. It takes time and I try to nurture those acquaintances and hopefully they grow into true friendships. But... what if I reach out and get rejected? (Ever had your FB friend request ignored and still run into the person regularly? Talk about knowing where you stand. :P )
I know I am not going to be best friends with everyone I am friendly with. That's unrealistic. I do know that we're created to live in relationship with others and that having trusted friends to laugh, cry, worry, rejoice and yes, even pray with is a treasure to be cherished and nurtured.
I went home singing Veggietales:
"I can be your friend (la la la)I can be your friend (la la la)If your hair is red or yellow. We can have lunch. I'll share my jello."
But I also made the decision to take the risk of reaching out. Yes, it might be awkward. Yes, it might be ignored. But I want, no I need, to do this. I don't have a quota. I have a goal...to be sure that my heart is in the right place always. I try but I know I can always improve on that. :O
Praying that you find joy and comfort in your relationships; that they are built on trust and filled with opportunities to grow and to love.